Preparing For A Divorce Or Separation


The decision to get a divorce or to undergo a marital separation can come suddenly, or you may have had time to think about what your options are and what you want in your life. As an experienced family law attorney, we have counseled clients in a variety of situations. If this is a step you are considering, there are things you can do now that can help your divorce case, while helping you recover emotionally. Here is some advice that can help you when preparing for a divorce of separation.

Documents You Will Need When Getting a Divorce

Under South Carolina divorce laws, property division and spousal or child support are common issues to contend with in divorce cases. To reach any type of marital settlement, you will need to provide proof of both you and your spouse’s income, debts, and assets or property you own. A good first step before announcing your intentions is to carefully document the information you will need. This includes:

  • Pay stubs, business reports, and past year’s tax returns

  • Statements from your bank and any other financial institutions

  • Copies of all credit bills, loan documents, car payments, and mortgage receipts

  • Utility bills and receipts for monthly expenses

  • An inventory of all personal property you own, such as household furnishings, artwork, and antiques

  • A list of real estate, such as homes, rental properties, timeshares, or land

  • Estate planning documents, including your will and any life insurance policies

  • Expenses related to children, including education, recreational, and social expenses

Now is the time to create a budget based on your earnings and to make plans regarding housing if you intend to leave the marital home. It is also a good idea to open up a bank account for depositing your pay along with a credit card or two in your own name, to help establish your credit separate from your spouse.

Preparing Yourself Emotionally

Going through a separation is one of the most stressful experiences in life, regardless of the situation. Psychology Today offers these tips to help you stay focused on moving forward when preparing for a divorce:

  • Strategize how you will actually make ends meet on one income, rather than living in fear or having unrealistic expectations

  • Focus on problems and issues that will need to be dealt with, rather than ignoring the situation or attempting to escape through alcohol use, overeating, or abusing other substances

  • Assess support systems you currently have in place, such as family members, friends, and church groups, along with things you might want to add, such as therapy or group counseling

  • Face your feelings, and realize it is natural to grieve the end of your marriage

Get Help With Your Divorce

Going through a divorce or separation is a big step, but you do not have to go through it alone. Contact the Surasky Law Firm, LLC and request a confidential, one on one consultation with our Aiken divorce attorney. We can advise you on steps you need to take as you prepare for a divorce, while acting as a strong legal advocate on your behalf. Reach out to our caring, supportive staff today.

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