With the holidays fast approaching, many people will be busy planning get-togethers with family and friends. If you are going through a marital separation or divorce, this can be an emotional time. Cherished traditions may no longer apply—and if you have children, you likely have concerns about dividing time between you and the other parent. In this situation, it is important to realize you are not alone. Many couples end up going through the same thing each year. Here are some tips on getting through the holidays while going through a divorce.
Dealing With Holiday Depression During Divorce
The holidays can be difficult under the best circumstances. When dealing with the breakup of a marriage, it is natural to feel sad, angry, or depressed. However, there are ways to overcome these feelings and enjoy the season.
A Huffington Post report states one of the key elements is maintaining a positive attitude. Being realistic about the situation helps. If you are currently in divorce court or contemplating filing, it is likely problems have been building over a period of years. Even if you are not the one who initiated the divorce, looking back and realizing that not everything was perfect can help to balance what you may be feeling. Other tips which can help include:
Be good to yourself: Make sure you are eating properly and getting adequate rest.
Spend ‘me’ time: Divorce allows a fresh start. It is ok to spend time alone, rediscovering hobbies or activities that may have gotten sacrificed during your marriage.
Avoid isolating: Too much time alone is not a good thing. Going to one or two events with a few good friends can lift your spirits.
Get help as needed: If you find yourself struggling, you may want to speak with your doctor or a therapist. There is nothing wrong with getting some extra help and expanding your support network.
Dealing With Matters Pertaining to Children
Under the South Carolina Children's Code, courts today are more in favor of child time sharing plans, which allow both parents to play an active role in the child’s life. This means that unless there are extenuating circumstances, children will likely be dividing their time between your home and the other parent’s over the holiday season.
This can be a major adjustment, particularly during the first year. However, during this time it is important to put your child’s wellbeing first by doing your best to cooperate with any court orders and adapt to the situation. Avoid bad mouthing your spouse, bemoaning the situation, or airing dirty laundry in front of the child. Assure them that while many things may have changed, you can hold on to some of your old traditions while making new ones together.
Contact Us Today for Help
When going through the emotional upheaval of a divorce, the Surasky Law Firm, LLC acts as a strong ally on your side. To discuss your situation, the options available, and how we can help, contact our Aiken divorce and family law attorneys to request a consultation.